8/5/2008 - LUKE AIR FORCE BASE, Ariz. (AFPN) -- On a recent trip to a bookstore, I was approached by a man in his late 30s to early 40s.
He seemed nervous and upset; avoiding eye contact and shifting his
weight from one foot to the other. My guard went up immediately. In 22
years of military service, I've heard some negative things said about
the military, my branch of service, my choice of occupation given my
gender, and the general displeasure with government policy at large.
The challenge has always been not to take these statements personally.
In the early '90s at the height of Operation Desert Storm, I came up
with the following response, delivered as nonconfrontationally as
possible. "You seem to be very passionate about this and I take pride
in helping defend your right to voice an opinion different from my
own." Trust me when I say it works like a charm 99 percent of the time.
So here I was, ready with my trusty response, when the gentleman looked
up at me, his eyes brimming with tears, and said, "I recently lost my
brother in Iraq. I don't want to talk about it because it's still too
fresh, but it would mean the world to me if you would allow me to
purchase those for you."
I was dumbstruck. I blinked back the tears welling up in my own eyes
and tried desperately to keep my voice under control despite the lump
quickly forming in my throat. I thanked him and walked to the waiting
cashier.
When the transaction was completed, he thanked me several times. I
shook his hand saying how sorry I was for his loss and thanked him for
his generosity. He looked me directly in the eyes and said, with a
smile spread across his face that emanated from deep within, "No, no
... thank you!"
To say I was humbled by this does not do justice to the experience
itself. For that brief moment, I had the honor of representing
something good and decent for this man who had suffered a deep personal
loss. It reminded me once again never to take lightly what this uniform
represents to those who see me wear it. For some, it can be a negative
symbol of all that's wrong with the world, but for others it represents
a beacon of hope and so much more.
May you wear your uniform with pride wherever you go. Always remember,
you represent so much more than just the name embroidered above your
right breast pocket.
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